How to Deal with Defiance in Children Who Have Experienced Trauma

“No, I don’t feel like it.”  That was the response I got a few weeks ago when I asked my Adopted son to take a shower.  I had prepared him ahead of time, given him a five minute warning, and had retrieved his clothing to make it easier.  Still, he was “defying” me.  Why?

For a stranger watching this exchange, you may have thought I was too lenient in my response when I replied, “Okay, I’m going to ask you again in five minutes.”  When we signed up for our foster parent program I would have laughed at such a response. If you knew my son however, and the dark issues of trauma that surround his past, you would know something deeper was at work here.

Traumatized children are sometimes hard to read.  We make assumptions about them that are untrue based on our own perceptions.  The biggest thing I have learned about dealing with what looks like defiance in my adopted children is that things are often not what they seem.  If I can keep my cool long enough to get to the heart of the matter, scenarios like this one do not escalate and my kids are happier, and more relaxed.  In addition, they have fewer discipline problems.  Not because I ignore their
issues (they aren’t the type of issues that can be ignored!) but because I approach my children with understanding and mercy.

So what did I do about the shower?  First, I considered the situation.  We were up late the night before and often that means my son has urinated in his pull-up.  He has a distended bowel due to anxiety (former foster kids often have anxiety issues) and
late nights can mean he has feces in his pants as well.  This makes him embarrassed, especially since he doesn’t have the small motor skills to clean himself up properly. Usually when he refuses to take a shower it means he needs help but is too embarrassed to ask.  When the timer beeped I made sure we were out of earshot of his siblings and quietly asked him if he needed help getting cleaned up.  He nodded and went immediately to the bathroom.

This issue was not defiance at all–it was a simple matter of embarrassment.  If I had treated it as defiance (which I am sad to report, I have in the past) it would only have damaged my relationship with my son and we would not have solved anything. He may have been clean, but our relationship may have needed repairing.  One step forward, two steps back.

Know your child.  Know his issues.  Learn his heart and lead him to the love you have for him.

About the Author

Sandra Nardoni is an adoptive and home educating mom of three children, ages 11,9, and 8. Her articles have appeared in the Parenting Solutions Journal, a newsletter devoted to serving parents of special needs children who have been adopted. Sandra adopted her two youngest children from the foster care system and enjoys helping other adoptive parents struggling with severe behaviors. To find out more about Sandra’s family visit her at her blog, http://www.urbanfarmkids.blogspot.com. You can sign up for a free mini-course about adopting from the foster care system at http://www.adoptioncounts.com.

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Adopting on Your Own: The Complete Guide to Adoption for Single Parents $16 From the Publisher Adopting on Your Own addresses the questions and concerns of prospective single parents. Lee Varon, a practicing therapist specializing in adoption counseling and the single mother of two adopted children, helps readers make an evenhanded assessment of whether adoption is right for them, then leads them through the different stages of arranging and financing the adoption. She weighs the advantages of open versus closed and international versus domestic adoption for the single parent, and demystifies potentially daunting steps such as choosing an agency and preparing for the home study. Adopting on Your Own also offers up-to-date information on the latest developments in interracial adoption policy, the legal rights of gays and lesbians to adopt, and the evolving attitudes of agencies and social workers toward single-parent adoptions. Throughout the book, Varon draws on personal anecdotes and the experiences of her clients to offer honest, insightful advice on every step of the adoption process. Publishers Weekly Herself an adoptive mother of two and a counselor who has helped thousands of clients through their adoption decisions, Varon candidly covers just about every issue of concern to single men and women who are considering adoption in this excellent guide. She starts at the beginning–with making the decision–and offers insights on a variety of crucial questions: How old is too old to parent? How much money do I need to adopt a child? Can I adopt if I had cancer five years ago? Are there right and wrong reasons for wanting to adopt? She then walks readers through the adoption process, from determining which child is right for you to different types of adoption, including international. She covers the ins and outs of choosing an agency and preparing for the home study–including whether or not potential adoptive parents should be open about their sexual orientation. Varon also discusses issues that

Adopting the Hurt Child $1.99 Discover the hard truths and real hope about healing hurting children through adoptive and foster parents, social workers, and others who care. Includes information on foreign adoptions.

Adopting the Hurt Child: A Guide for Parents and Professionals $0.99 THE NEW FACE OF ADOPTION. Fewer and fewer families adopting today are able to bring home a healthy newborn infant. The majority of adoptions now involve emotionally wounded, older children who have suffered the effects of abuse or neglect in their birth families and carry complex baggage with them into their adoptive families. Adopting the Hurt Child addresses the frustrations, heartache, and hope surrounding the adoptions of these special-needs kids. Children who have endured emotional and physical atrocities, failed reunifications, and myriad losses associated with multiple moves in the foster care system not only present unique challenges to their adoptive families but also impact greater society in significant ways. Integrating social, psychological, and sociopolitical issues, Adopting the Hurt Child explains how trauma and interruptions affect these children’s normal development and often severely undermine their capacity to function in a loving family and in society. Written in a non-technical style accessible to a diverse audience, Adopting the Hurt Child brings to light grim truths, but also real hope that children who have been hurt can be healed and brought back into life by the adoptive and foster parents, therapists, teachers, social workers, and others whose lives interact with theirs.

Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special-Needs Kids $0.99 New – Fewer and fewer families adopting today are able to bring home a healthy newborn infant. The majority of adoptions now involve emotionally wounded, older children who have suffered the effects of abuse or neglect in their birth families and carry complex baggage with them into their adoptive families. “Adopting The Hurt Child” addresses the frustrations, heartache, and hope surrounding the adoptions of these special-needs kids.Children who have endured emotional and physical atrocities, fa

Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special-Needs Kidsa Guide for Parents and Professionals $7.99 Used – Without avoiding the grim statistics, this book reveals the real hope that hurting children can be healed through adoptive and foster parents, social workers, and others who care. Includes information on foreign adoptions.

Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special-Needs Kidsa Guide for Parents and Professionals $9.98 New – Without avoiding the grim statistics, this book reveals the real hope that hurting children can be healed through adoptive and foster parents, social workers, and others who care. Includes information on foreign adoptions.

Adoption $107 Adoption is a topic that captures peoples’ interest, curiosity, imagination and empathy. Adoptees and birth parents are key people in the adoption arena yet. So too, are the adoptive mothers, as the primary carers who often remain hidden and busy doing the work of raising the adopted children. This book provides access to detailed, unique stories from adoptive mothers as they walk a different yet familiar road to mothering. Significant times across the adoption life cycle are discussed including waiting impatiently to adopt, mothering in the exhausting early years, coping strategies along the way, and facing change in the teenage years and beyond when issues of information about and contact with birth relatives are emerging. This book will be of great interest to adoptive families, potential adopting couples,policy makers and it will be especially useful for professionals working in the area of adoption.

Adoption & Prenatal Alcohol & Drug Exposure: Rearch, Policy, and Practice $18.39 Used – This book provides important information on the impact of prenatal substance exposure on children’s immediate health and well-being; the long-term implications for children’s health and development; the role that a positive postnatal environment can play in remediating the effects of prenatal substance exposure; suggested counseling for prospective adoptive parents concerning substance exposure; and the ongoing services and supports that are needed for adoptive families and their substanc

Adoption Literature for Children and Young Adults: An Annotated Bibliography $79.29 This extensive annotated bibliography covers the literature published since 1900 suitable for children and young adults dealing in some fashion with adoption. The 503 titles annotated in this volume are divided into fiction and nonfiction by reading level. A comprehensive subject, as well as title and author index, assures access to the books cited within the bibliography. Although most of the books included feature adoption as a main theme, others use adoption as a secondary theme, while others have characters who just happen to be adopted. The lengthy annotations will allow the readers an opportunity to evaluate each title’s usefulness. The bibliography encompasses such topics as the age of arrival, sibling adoption, single-parent adoption, foster parent adoption, step-parent and relative adoption, transracial and intercountry adoption, Amerasian children, racial identity, minority families, special needs, large families, birthparents, search and reunion, surrogacy and open adoption, and some of the less pleasant aspects of adoption. This book, compiled by a reference librarian who is also an adoptive parent, brings a wealth of information to adoptees, adoptive parents and support groups, adoption agencies and their personnel, librarians, educators and family therapists. The experiences and emotions described in the hundreds of compiled titles duplicate and validate those of every adoptive family. Each title includes complete bibliographic information, pagination, and OCLC number (when available). Also featured is a selective resource list and a directory of adoption-related organizations.

Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox, Building Connections $13.98 Used – Its the What to Expect for adoptive families! Over 100 contributors have woven a stunning tapestry of advice for adoptive parents. Parenting adopted children requires understanding the extra layer and this book helps in that understanding. Appropriate for the newly created family or the more experienced, Adoption Parenting looks at stumbling blocks to good parenting and standard parenting practices that arent appropriate for adopted children. It looks at the core issues all members of the

Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox, Building Connections $19.01 New – Its the What to Expect for adoptive families! Over 100 contributors have woven a stunning tapestry of advice for adoptive parents. Parenting adopted children requires understanding the extra layer and this book helps in that understanding. Appropriate for the newly created family or the more experienced, Adoption Parenting looks at stumbling blocks to good parenting and standard parenting practices that arent appropriate for adopted children. It looks at the core issues all members of the

Adoption Reunion Stories: True Heartwarming Accounts $3.6 Used – “Collection of stories about the reunions of adopted children and their birth parents, with sections from the point of view of the children and their adoptive and birth parents”–Provided by publisher.

Adoption as a Ministry, Adoption as a Blessing $4.94 Abba, Father! Of all the pictures the Lord uses to describe His relationship with believers, that of a loving father to adopted children is perhaps the most tender. As the body of Christ observes families who have lovingly welcomed adopted children into their midst, we gain a greater appreciation of our own adoption into the family of God.Exploring what Scripture says about adoption and the value of children, Michelle Gardner demonstrates that adoption can be God’s first choice for some lives. Weaving her own children’s heartwarming adoption stories throughout the book, Michelle presents a new challenge for believers to do something drastic for a child.Adoption as a Ministry, Adoption as a Blessing explores: – what the Bible says about ministering to children in need of families- how the church can minister to adoptive families- whether it is right to spend a great deal of money on one child’s adoption- whether domestic or international adoptions are more worthy- the blessings of adoptionIf you are touched by adoption in any way, this book will give you a new perspective on the Biblical significance of this unique relationship.Michelle Gardner, the Director of Kingdom Kids Adoption Ministries, is a graduate of Multnomah Bible College. She and her husband Steve were missionaries with CBInternational for several years. Steve is now Pastor to Children and Families at Fourth Memorial Church in Spokane, Washington. They have six children, three of whom are adopted.

Adoption: A Different Road to Mothering $115 Used – Adoption is a topic that captures peoples’ interest, curiosity, imagination and empathy. Adoptees and birth parents are key people in the adoption arena yet. So too, are the adoptive mothers, as the primary carers who often remain hidden and busy doing the work of raising the adopted children. This book provides access to detailed, unique stories from adoptive mothers as they walk a different yet familiar road to mothering. Significant times across the adoption life cycle are discussed in

Adoption: A Different Road to Mothering $115 New – Adoption is a topic that captures peoples’ interest, curiosity, imagination and empathy. Adoptees and birth parents are key people in the adoption arena yet. So too, are the adoptive mothers, as the primary carers who often remain hidden and busy doing the work of raising the adopted children. This book provides access to detailed, unique stories from adoptive mothers as they walk a different yet familiar road to mothering. Significant times across the adoption life cycle are discussed inc

Adoption: Choosing It, Living It, Loving It $9.5 New – Ray Guarendi, psychologist, husband and father of ten adopted children, considers the most commonly asked adoption questions with insight, humor and a heart for the adoptive family. His aim? To dispel unsettling misperceptions about adoption, to encourage others to think about and act on adoption, and to guide adoptive parents to a more relaxed, rewarding family life for all involved. A must-have resource for those considering adoption, those who have already adopted and those in the mix a

Adoption: Choosing It, Living It, Loving It; Straight Answers to Hearfelt Questions $14.99 Ray Guarendi, psychologist, husband and father of ten adopted children, considers the most commonly asked adoption questions with insight, humor and a heart for the adoptive family. His aim? To dispel unsettling misperceptions about adoption, to encourage others to think about and act on adoption, and to guide adoptive parents to a more relaxed, rewarding family life for all involved. A must-have resource for those considering adoption, those who have already adopted and those in the mix as family members or friends of adoptive parents.

Adoption: Choosing It, Living It, Loving It; Straight Answers to Hearfelt Questions $4.54 Used – Ray Guarendi, psychologist, husband and father of ten adopted children, considers the most commonly asked adoption questions with insight, humor and a heart for the adoptive family. His aim? To dispel unsettling misperceptions about adoption, to encourage others to think about and act on adoption, and to guide adoptive parents to a more relaxed, rewarding family life for all involved. A must-have resource for those considering adoption, those who have already adopted and those in the mix

African American kinship caregivers’ experiences with parenting and their children’s schools: An exploratory study. $49.99 An exploratory study was completed to examine African American kinship caregivers’ experiences with parenting and their children’s schools. A qualitative analysis of ten interviews was completed using the grounded theory approach (Strauss & Corbin, 1997) and case study method (Yin, 2004). In 2000, the national census recorded that an estimated six million children lived in homes led by grandparents or other relatives (Reynolds, 2003). Increases in teen parenting, abuse and neglect, mental illness, incompetence, incarceration, drug and alcohol abuse, and premature death often attributed to HIV and AIDS, have enlarged the number of children requiring out of home placement. Federal and state legislation and related funding streams mandate giving adult relatives preference over other non-related caregivers when determining child placement. Though some kinship caregivers are licensed as foster or adoptive parents and are expected to meet the same rigorous screening and training requirements as non-relative caregivers, the vast majority of children are placed with relatives through private family arrangements (Swann & Sylvester, 2006). Whether placements are facilitated by family courts, social service agencies, or by familial agreements, children’s and caregivers’ financial, psychological, emotional, health and educational needs evolve over time. This study revealed three issues which affected the level of aid afforded to these families. First, the level of financial and other parenting support given to kinship caregivers is often tied directly to the route of the child’s placement. Second, relative caregivers who have accepted responsibility for kin children with little or no contact with the family courts or social service agencies demonstrated limited knowledge of and/or access to helpful resources. Third, consistent with the literature generated in studying grandparent caregivers, most kinship caregivers in this small sample were reluctant to seek social and

African American kinship caregivers’ experiences with parenting and their children’s schools: An exploratory study. $49.99 An exploratory study was completed to examine African American kinship caregivers’ experiences with parenting and their children’s schools. A qualitative analysis of ten interviews was completed using the grounded theory approach (Strauss & Corbin, 1997) and case study method (Yin, 2004). In 2000, the national census recorded that an estimated six million children lived in homes led by grandparents or other relatives (Reynolds, 2003). Increases in teen parenting, abuse and neglect, mental illness, incompetence, incarceration, drug and alcohol abuse, and premature death often attributed to HIV and AIDS, have enlarged the number of children requiring out of home placement. Federal and state legislation and related funding streams mandate giving adult relatives preference over other non-related caregivers when determining child placement. Though some kinship caregivers are licensed as foster or adoptive parents and are expected to meet the same rigorous screening and training requirements as non-relative caregivers, the vast majority of children are placed with relatives through private family arrangements (Swann & Sylvester, 2006). Whether placements are facilitated by family courts, social service agencies, or by familial agreements, children’s and caregivers’ financial, psychological, emotional, health and educational needs evolve over time. This study revealed three issues which affected the level of aid afforded to these families. First, the level of financial and other parenting support given to kinship caregivers is often tied directly to the route of the child’s placement. Second, relative caregivers who have accepted responsibility for kin children with little or no contact with the family courts or social service agencies demonstrated limited knowledge of and/or access to helpful resources. Third, consistent with the literature generated in studying grandparent caregivers, most kinship caregivers in this small sample were reluctant to seek social and

All Across China $25 Reviews “All Across China” is one of the first children’s books that Chipmunkapublishing has published and is proud to call its own. This book was the result of the input of several knowledgeable people, including two Asian Americans and one Asian family member of the authors’ who currently lives in Guangxi Province. In addition, the book is presently being translated into Chinese for distribution in China by an Asian professor at Beijing University, who is in assocation with Five College Center for East Asia Studies.”Feedback from Libraries, schools, adoption agencies and adoptive families:I have to tell you – I LOVED that book!! I added it to the library, but it took everything in me!! I SO wanted to keep a copy for our daughters! What a wonderful treasure – I plan to blog on it this week! We received your beautiful books today…Thank you so much. Our staff and children will really enjoy them!Thank you for the copies of your fun and educational books. I found them to be informative, colorful, and an exciting way to learn about the countries of China and Canada. Thank you immensely for the complimentary copy of “All Across China” and “All Across Canada”. We are quite pleased to put them into circulation.Thank you for the books – they arrived in the post today. All across China is very informative and simply presented which will appeal to quite a large age range. The format in all the books is nice and easy for children and parents to use. Well done! Thank you so very much for the wonderful books! I am happy to report that the State of Virginia is going to be changing the social studies curriculum for 5th grade within a year or so to include a concentration on geography, which is a wonderful addition to the curriculum. Therefore, these books on China and Canada will be great resources not only for the China unit that 2nd graders do, but also for any student researching other countries or geography!Thank you again for your generosity,

All Us Kids $15.4 A near-future vision of old soldiers, Lakota refugees, nuclear disarmament, ideological abrasion, wide-open spaces, motivational inmates, prairie communes, spiritual tutelage, a crusty old abortion doctor, a traitorous Malaysian, and a lot of brown grass. Dan Meade volunteers to help fight a hopeless battle for control of the Missouri River corridor. Bodies, missiles, unexpected friends, and adoptive children pile up as Dan journeys north along the great reservoirs of the northern plains. The cold prairie winter finds Dan and his family among an unwieldy community of evangelical refugees and the former inmates of a women’s penitentiary. Countries large and small line up to claim the devastated USA as Dan’s community struggles to find a home.

An examination of the attachment process from childhood to romantic relationships among young adults raised in long-term and adoptive foster care. $49.99 This is a qualitative study that seeks to examine the foster care experience through the narratives of fifteen participants. This study specifically examines how foster care and family disruptions impact a young adult’s ability to form and establish meaningful and trusting romantic relationships. The data were collected from interviews of young adults raised in long-term foster care and adoptive foster care placements. As I set out to explore the foster care experience, I noted the recurring themes that resonated from interviews with the participants. Participants’ experiences and understandings of attachment are reflected in my findings.;Many researchers, such as John Bowlby, have long argued that the attachments that infants form or fail to form with their caregivers have life long implications for future relationships. But attachment researchers have overlooked the institution of foster care and the ways it shapes children’s lives. This study examines lifelong attachment processes and examines the attachment process of young adults raised in foster care and adoptive foster placements. Specifically, this study examines how romantic relationships are viewed, established, and often avoided by young adults raised in foster care.

An examination of the attachment process from childhood to romantic relationships among young adults raised in long-term and adoptive foster care. $49.99 This is a qualitative study that seeks to examine the foster care experience through the narratives of fifteen participants. This study specifically examines how foster care and family disruptions impact a young adult’s ability to form and establish meaningful and trusting romantic relationships. The data were collected from interviews of young adults raised in long-term foster care and adoptive foster care placements. As I set out to explore the foster care experience, I noted the recurring themes that resonated from interviews with the participants. Participants’ experiences and understandings of attachment are reflected in my findings.;Many researchers, such as John Bowlby, have long argued that the attachments that infants form or fail to form with their caregivers have life long implications for future relationships. But attachment researchers have overlooked the institution of foster care and the ways it shapes children’s lives. This study examines lifelong attachment processes and examines the attachment process of young adults raised in foster care and adoptive foster placements. Specifically, this study examines how romantic relationships are viewed, established, and often avoided by young adults raised in foster care.

Ancient Roman Women in Warfare: Agrippina the Younger, Fulvia, Triaria, Cloelia $9.25 Purchase includes free access to book updates online and a free trial membership in the publisher’s book club where you can select from more than a million books without charge. Excerpt: Julia Agrippina (Julia Augusta Agrippina after AD 50), more commonly referred to as Agrippina Minor, Agrippinilla (Little Agrippina) or Agrippina the Younger (7 November AD 1519/23 March AD 59) was a Roman empress and one of the more prominent women in the Julio-Claudian dynasty. She was a great-granddaughter of the Emperor Augustus, great-niece and adoptive granddaughter of the Emperor Tiberius, sister of the Emperor Caligula, niece and fourth wife of the Emperor Claudius, and mother of the Emperor Nero. Agrippina the Younger has been described by the ancient and modern sources as ruthless, ambitious, violent and domineering. She was a beautiful and reputable woman and according to Pliny the Elder, she had a double canine in her upper right jaw, a sign of good fortune. Many ancient historians accuse Agrippina of poisoning Emperor Claudius, though accounts vary. Agrippina the Younger was the first daughter and fourth living child of Agrippina the Elder and Germanicus. She was the namesake of her mother. The union of Agrippina the Elder and Germanicus produced nine children. Three of them died in early childhood. The remaining six were, from oldest to youngest: Agrippina the Elder is remembered as a modest and heroic matron, who was the second daughter and fourth child of Julia the Elder and the statesman Marcus Vipsanius Agrippa. Her brothers and sister were Gaius Caesar, Lucius Caesar, Agrippa Postumus and Julia the Younger (Julilla). The father of Julia the Elder was the Emperor Augustus, and Julia was his only natural child from his second wife Scribonia, who had been a descendant of the general Pompey the Great and the dictator Lucius Cornelius Sulla. Roman aureus depicting Agrippina and Claudius, c. 50/54 Germanicus, Agrippina’s father, wa… More:

Aneirin Hughes $57.99 Aneirin Hughes , is a Welsh actor and singer. Born in Aberystwyth in Wales, Hughes studied Music at the University College of Wales Aberystwyth under Professor Ian Parrott. As a student Hughes’s first acting experience was gained when he appeared in performances of the Gilbert and Sullivan operas conducted by David Russell Hulme. Hughes also studied at the Royal Scottish Academy of Music and Drama.Hughes began his acting career in the 1980s in the BBC Wales soap opera Pobol Y Cwm. He went on to appear in Blood on the Dole, Casualty, Family Affairs as DI Patrick Grenham , Spooks, Take Me with Robson Green and EastEnders in January and April 2009 as Andy Jones, the adoptive father of Danielle Jones.Hughes won a Best Actor BAFTA Cymru (or BAFTA Wales) for his appearance as Delme in Cameleon (1998), a Welsh language film.He appears regularly in Judge John Deed as Neil Haughton, Young Dracula as Graham Branaugh, and was Harper in Harper and Isles with Hywel Bennett.He also appeared in the 1998 film The Theory of Flight.Hughes lives in Monmouth with his wife and two children.

Assessing the Support Needs of Adopted Children and their Families $43.95 Written in consultation with a range of experts, clinicians and practitioners as well as adoptive children, families and birth relatives, this book gives helpful guidance on making evidence-based assessments and planning successful adoption support. Key features include:a discussion of the main themes of adoption and pointers for practice in relation to the Assessment Framework a guide to the use of evidence-based approaches to assessment, including the tools commissioned by the Department of Health and the Department for Education a model for analysis and planning, and planning support and interventions an investigation of the source, range and value of support services and interventions that can promote the wellbeing of adopted children, their adoptive families and birth relatives.Packed with practical advice, case examples and models of good practice, this book is invaluable for social workers and managers involved with the adoption process and the well-being of children and families. It is also essential reading for social work students learning about working with children and families.

Assessing the Support Needs of Adopted Children and their Families $150 Written in consultation with a range of experts, clinicians and practitioners as well as adoptive children, families and birth relatives, this book gives helpful guidance on making evidence-based assessments and planning successful adoption support. Key features include:a discussion of the main themes of adoption and pointers for practice in relation to the Assessment Framework a guide to the use of evidence-based approaches to assessment, including the tools commissioned by the Department of Health and the Department for Education a model for analysis and planning, and planning support and interventions an investigation of the source, range and value of support services and interventions that can promote the wellbeing of adopted children, their adoptive families and birth relatives.Packed with practical advice, case examples and models of good practice, this book is invaluable for social workers and managers involved with the adoption process and the well-being of children and families. It is also essential reading for social work students learning about working with children and families.

At the Feet of Angels $13.39 At the Feet of Angels is the tale of Jenny Burnett, a young child, kidnapped by her uncle and sold on the black market to a childless couple. It is the compelling drama of Jenny’s endless pining for her real mother, of her instinctive, yet daring, attempts to escape, of growing abuse at the hands of her adoptive mother, and of the hapless effort of a sympathetic but inept adoptive father. It is a story of the child’s quest for salvation in her play, in the enduring friendship she strikes with a little neighbor boy she never gets to see, and in daydreams of angels and fairies she wills into the sky above her prison playground.The story takes place inside the heart and mind of the little prisoner and reveals her every impulse: her dreams, her hopes, her fears, her anger, her confusion, her prayers and her attempts to reason. It is a tale of struggle and play, of compelling innocence, of times of soaring joy, of special friendship, and of poignant memories and determined effort. Author Biography: Vernon Bargainer lives with his wife in Mesquite, Texas. He is the father of six children and the grandfather of five. He holds a Baccalaureate degree in psychology from the University of Texas and has a record of 35 years in human relations with the public service.

Attachment Theory in Clinical Work With Children $25 Attachment research has tremendous potential for helping clinicians understand what happens when parent-child bonds are disrupted, and what can be done to help. Yet there remains a large gap between theory and practice in this area. This book reviews what is known about attachment and translates it into practical guidelines for therapeutic work. Leading scientist-practitioners present innovative strategies for assessing and intervening in parent-child relationship problems; helping young children recover from maltreatment or trauma; and promoting healthy development in adoptive and foster families. Detailed case material in every chapter illustrates the applications of research-based concepts and tools in real-world clinical practice.

Attachment Theory in Clinical Work with Children: Bridging the Gap between Research and Practice $40 Attachment research has tremendous potential for helping clinicians understand what happens when parent–child bonds are disrupted, and what can be done to help. Yet there remains a large gap between theory and practice in this area. This book reviews what is known about attachment and translates it into practical guidelines for therapeutic work. Leading scientist-practitioners present innovative strategies for assessing and intervening in parent–child relationship problems; helping young children recover from maltreatment or trauma; and promoting healthy development in adoptive and foster families. Detailed case material in every chapter illustrates the applications of research-based concepts and tools in real-world clinical practice.

Babies without Borders: Adoption and Migration across the Americas $21.95 While international adoptions have risen in the public eye and recent scholarship has covered transnational adoption from Asia to the U.S., adoptions between North America and Latin America have been overshadowed and, in some cases, forgotten. In this nuanced study of adoption, Karen Dubinsky expands the historical record while she considers the political symbolism of children caught up in adoption and migration controversies in Canada, the United States, Cuba, and Guatemala.Babies without Borders tells the interrelated stories of Cuban children caught in Operation Peter Pan, adopted Black and Native American children who became icons in the Sixties, and Guatemalan children whose “disappearance” today in transnational adoption networks echoes their fate during the country’s brutal civil war. Drawing from archival research as well as from her critical observations as an adoptive parent, Dubinsky moves debates around transnational adoption beyond the current dichotomy—the good of “humanitarian rescue,” against the evil of “imperialist kidnap.” Integrating the personal with the scholarly, Babies without Borders exposes what happens when children bear the weight of adult political conflicts.

Basics of Adoption: A Guide for Building Families in the U.S. and Canada $45 With about 70,000 domestic and international adoptions each year in the United States and Canada, adoption remains a major means of building families in both countries. Its continued success can be inferred not only from the yearly statistics, but from a report issued in 2003 by the U.S. Census Bureau. To the surprise of many, the report announced the existence of 1.6 million adopted children in the U.S. under the age of eighteen. Written by a former social worker who has placed hundreds of children in foster and adoptive homes and a clinical psychologist who has counseled adopted children and parents, this book offers a comprehensive look at the adoption process by merging the best of social work with the best of psychology.Adoption can be a frustrating and intimidating undertaking for the unprepared. This guide provides prospective adoptive parents with the insider information that they need to navigate the process-and it provides students with the sort of expert opinion that they need to grasp the academic theory they receive in the classroom.

Be My Baby: Parents and Children Talk about Adoption $17.56 With insight and emotion, Be My Baby dramatizes the deeply felt bonds and life-affirming experiences that are at the heart of an adoptive family. Told through the voices of adoptive parents and their children, it offers a luminous portrait of family life. 50 illustrations.

Before You Were Mine: Discovering Your Adopted Child’s Lifestory $6.53 New – Tebos helps adoptive parents create a lifebook from a faith perspective that tells their childs story prior to adoption, and adds a faith component to assure children that their adoption is a part of Gods plan. (Relationships)

Before You Were Mine: Discovering Your Adopted Child’s Lifestory $5.21 Used – Tebos helps adoptive parents create a lifebook from a faith perspective that tells their childs story prior to adoption, and adds a faith component to assure children that their adoption is a part of Gods plan. (Relationships)

Behavioral Indicators as Attachment Difficulties $48.41 New – In the last few decades, children adopted from Romania, some of whom were institutionalized, have been touted as examples of how deprivation can affect attachment. Attachment Theory has often been utilized to explain difficult behaviors. However, measuring attachment has often proven to be challenging, as most measures have been developed for young children. This study presents the findings of secondary data analysis from survey data of American adoptive parents of Romanian children. Score

Behavioral Indicators as Attachment Difficulties $48.41 Used – In the last few decades, children adopted from Romania, some of whom were institutionalized, have been touted as examples of how deprivation can affect attachment. Attachment Theory has often been utilized to explain difficult behaviors. However, measuring attachment has often proven to be challenging, as most measures have been developed for young children. This study presents the findings of secondary data analysis from survey data of American adoptive parents of Romanian children. Scor

Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self $5.85 New – Recent studies have shown that being adopted can affect many aspects of adoptees’ lives, from relationships with adoptive parents to bonds with their own children. Using their combined total of 55 years experience in clinical and research work with adoptees and their families, the authors use the voices of adoptees themselves to trace how adoption is experienced over a lifetime.

Belonging: A True Story of Adoption $134.28 This book provides help and support to the adoptive parents and children of the world, but also to a larger family–the human race, God’s adopted kids.

Beyond Good Intentions: A Mother Reflects on Raising Internationally Adopted Children $8.66 Beyond Good Intentions is a book of essays about the joys and risks of raising children adopted internationally. Cheri Register examines ten pitfalls that well-meaning parents like herself can easily slip into: — Wiping Away Our Children’s Past — Hovering Over Our Troubled Children — Holding the Lid on Sorrow and Anger — Parenting on the Defensive — Believing Race Doesn’t Matter — Keeping Our Children Exotic — Raising Our Children in Isolation — Judging Our Country Superior — Believing Adoption Saves Souls — Appropriating Our Children’s Heritage Each essay opens with an exaggerated version of something an adoptive parent might say, to prompt a fresh, intense look at practices so familiar they are seldom questioned, even though they may not serve the children’s and the family’s best interests. Register urges readers to bring their own experiences to bear in a candid conversation about internationally adoptive family life.

Black Identities: West Indian Immigrant Dreams and American Realities $11.92 Used – The story of West Indian immigrants to the United States is considered a great success. Many of these adoptive citizens have prospered, including General Colin Powell. But Mary Waters tells a very different story about immigrants from the West Indies, especially their children. She finds that when the immigrants first arrive, their knowledge of English, their skills and contacts, their self-respect, and their optimistic assessment of American race relations facilitate their integration i

Black Identities: West Indian Immigrant Dreams and American Realities $12.77 Used – The story of West Indian immigrants to the United States is considered a great success. Many of these adoptive citizens have prospered, including General Colin Powell. But Mary Waters tells a very different story about immigrants from the West Indies, especially their children. She finds that when the immigrants first arrive, their knowledge of English, their skills and contacts, their self-respect, and their optimistic assessment of American race relations facilitate their integration in

BloodPies: PAIN, TERROR, BLOOD…as experienced by an abused child who survived the trauma by floating away $68.87 If we are lucky in life, we may meet someone extraordinary who changes our entire point of view and our lives, so that we become better than we were. Ms. Kidd is such a person.Having been a physician in the field of Child Abuse for twenty-five years, I had yet to vividly experience abuse through the eyes of a child as she struggled to make sense of the only existence she knew.Bloodpies is the most astonishing story that I have ever read. What you will read will hurt you to your very core. But after the story has been told, you will feel within yourself that same courage that this small child had. This courage enabled her to go on and survive. -Lynne S. Ticson, MD, Ass’t. Clinical Professor-Pediatrics USC-Keck School of MedicineThe true story of a young girl growing up in an abusive family of the 1940s, before there were Child Abuse Reporting Laws in America. Her earliest home was a craftsman-styled duplex that she shared with her parents, grandparents, and, eventually, a sister. The basement of that simple seaside house held the darkest of secrets that make up the chapters of this book.The extraordinary achievement of BloodPies is the author’s incisive talent for sharing abusive memories and attempts at understanding from inside the mind of the child. The book allows the reader to experience the child’s confinement, confusion, and fear, along with a palpable sense of dread that the child does not experience, at least not consciously. BloodPies tells the life story of one remarkably resilient child, from the ages of three to twelve years old.BloodPies is a compelling read for foster and adoptive parents of abused children, teachers, and family caregivers. It is also a story for anyone who experienced childhood abuse or has recently come to terms with it in a relative or friend, and for the therapists and mental health providers who have the privilege to serve them.

Blue-Ribbon Babies and Labors of Love: Race, Class, and Gender in U.S. Adoption Practice $19.95 Most Americans assume that shared genes or blood relationships provide the strongest basis for family. What can adoption tell us about this widespread belief and American kinship in general? Blue-Ribbon Babies and Labors of Love examines the ways class, gender, and race shape public and private adoption in the United States. Christine Ward Gailey analyzes the controversies surrounding international, public, and transracial adoption, and how the political and economic dynamics that shape adoption policies and practices affect the lives of people in the adoption nexus: adopters, adoptees, birth parents, and agents within and across borders. Interviews with white and African-American adopters, adoption social workers, and adoption lawyers, combined with her long-term participant-observation in adoptive communities, inform her analysis of how adopters’ beliefs parallel or diverge from the dominant assumptions about kinship and family. Gailey demonstrates that the ways adoptive parents speak about their children vary across hierarchies of race, class, and gender. She shows that adopters’ notions about their children’s backgrounds and early experiences, as well as their own “family values,” influence child rearing practices. Her extensive interviews with 131 adopters reveal profoundly different practices of kinship in the United States today.Moving beyond the ideology of “blood is thicker than water,” Gailey presents a new way of viewing kinship and family formation, suitable to times of rapid social and cultural change.

Born in Our Hearts: Stories of Adoption $0.99 New – A heartwarming collection of true stories that weave a rich tapestry of the adoption experience from many different perspectives: birthmothers, adoptive parents and grandparents, and adopted children and adults. These inspiring stories reveal the challenges and joys of the lifelong adoption journey including: the pain of letting go of a child; the wonderment of meeting “your” perfect child halfway around the world; the challenges of adopting an older child already set in his ways; watching

Born in Our Hearts: Stories of Adoption $11.95 A heartwarming collection of true stories that weave a rich tapestry of the adoption experience from many different perspectives: birthmothers, adoptive parents and grandparents, and adopted children and adults. These inspiring stories reveal the challenges and joys of the lifelong adoption journey including: the pain of letting go of a child; the wonderment of meeting your perfect child halfway around the world; the challenges of adopting an older child already set in his ways; watching a child’s potential flourish in a loving environment; sibling rivalry and eventual bonding; integrating a child’s culture into a new multiracial family; finding peace in the search for identity, roots and unanswered questions; and feeling the happiness and love that comes from forming a family. While each story is unique, the emotions conveyed are universal: love, loss, hope and joy. The collection will appeal to everyone affected by adoption, regardless of their phase in the journey. Stunning black-and-white photos are included.

Both Ends Burning $21.9 Craig Juntunen appeared to have it all. He sold his company at the age of 40, and set out to live the good life of retirement. But he soon began to feel something was lacking. When a friend told him the story of adopting two girls from Haiti, Craig’s emptiness gave way to a sense of adventure. On a trip to the desperate Third World nation, a country wracked by poverty, corruption and kidnappings, his self-serving lifestyle began a very profound transformation. At an orphanage outside of Port-Au-Prince Craig encountered Espie, Amelec and Quinn. Even after decades of table-pounding declarations he would never have children, at 51 Craig became a dad. This inspirational story of an unexpected journey and personal transformation will say many things to different people. But for all it delivers a powerful reminder of our responsibility to reach out and be there for kids.”Craig’s story is very compelling and very real. It demonstrates the beauty of the adoption story….everybody wins. You start out by providing a home for a child but you end up providing more for yourself than you ever imagined.” Kirk Triplett, PGA Golf Professional and adoptive parent.

British Interior Designers: Anna Ryder Richardson, Tom Caldwell, Marc O’Riain, Afroditi Krassa, Michael Payne, John Dibblee Crace, Kelly Hoppen $8.96 Purchase includes free access to book updates online and a free trial membership in the publisher’s book club where you can select from more than a million books without charge. Chapters: Anna Ryder Richardson, Tom Caldwell, Marc O’riain, Afroditi Krassa, Michael Payne, John Dibblee Crace, Kelly Hoppen, Deborah Drew, Rodney Fitch. Excerpt: Anna Caroline Ryder Richardson (born 29 January 1964, in Swansea), is a British interior designer and television presenter. She is known for being a designer on the BBC shows Changing Rooms, House Invaders and Staying Put. Her father was a Malaysian student, and her mother Welsh. At six weeks of age, she was adopted by Colin and Jill Ryder Richardson, and raised in Surrey with her adopted sister Sarah. Her adoptive father, Colin, was a wartime Evacuee who survived the sinking of the SS City of Benares by a German U boat, U48. After an early career in modeling, she became a fitness instructor. She then managed children’s interior shop Squidy Things, where she started designing and decorating children’s bedrooms, which launched a career in interior designer. She has purchased Manor House Wildlife Park,St.Florence near Tenby, and made the video diary turned TV programme Trouble at the Zoo, which followed the progress of the redevelopment of the zoo. Richardson married her long-term partner, Glasgow restaurateur Colin MacDougall, on 22 March 2005 in a small private ceremony in Glasgow attended by close family and friends. Prior to the wedding, she had her ears pierced for the very first time especially to be able to wear a pair of antique diamond earrings that originally belonged to her adoptive grandmother, and that her adoptive mother had worn on her wedding day. Richardson, her husband and their two daughters, Bibi-Belle (born 2002) and Dixie-Dot (born 2003), currently live in St. Florence, Pembrokeshire, having relocated from Glasgow. In January 2001, following a number of miscarriages, sh… More:

Butterflies in the Wind: The Truth about Latin American Adoptions $18.74 The book chronicles not only the adoption of their three children abroad, but follows each of their children (including their biological son) into young adulthood. It vividly depicts their difficulties in raising teenagers in a cross-cultural, transracial home, and also exposes the frightening conditions facing today’s kids in our public schools, including gang issues, drop outs, and culture clashes. It provides valuable insights to parents and non-parents as well. This book was a real eye-opener and awakened me to the harsh realities our teens must face in what I would have thought were quality schools. Although told from a parent’s point of view, they very effectively explored the emotions, indeed the angst, of their teenage children.–Jo-Anne Weaver, adoptive parent of a Chinese daughter placed by Los Niños International, and Senior Acquisitions Editor of Education and Developmental Psychology for Harcourt Brace.

Butterflies in the Wind: The Truth about Latin American Adoptions $34.95 The book chronicles not only the adoption of their three children abroad, but follows each of their children (including their biological son) into young adulthood. It vividly depicts their difficulties in raising teenagers in a cross-cultural, transracial home, and also exposes the frightening conditions facing today”s kids in our public schools, including gang issues, drop outs, and culture clashes. It provides valuable insights to parents and non-parents as well. This book was a real eye-opener and awakened me to the harsh realities our teens must face in what I would have thought were quality schools. Although told from a parent”s point of view, they very effectively explored the emotions, indeed the angst, of their teenage children. –Jo-Anne Weaver, adoptive parent of a Chinese daughter placed by Los Ninos International, and Senior Acquisitions Editor of Education and Developmental Psychology for Harcourt Brace.

Butterflies in the Wind: The Truth about Latin American Adoptions $24.95 The book chronicles not only the adoption of their three children abroad, but follows each of their children (including their biological son) into young adulthood. It vividly depicts their difficulties in raising teenagers in a cross-cultural, transracial home, and also exposes the frightening conditions facing today”s kids in our public schools, including gang issues, drop outs, and culture clashes. It provides valuable insights to parents and non-parents as well. This book was a real eye-opener and awakened me to the harsh realities our teens must face in what I would have thought were quality schools. Although told from a parent”s point of view, they very effectively explored the emotions, indeed the angst, of their teenage children. –Jo-Anne Weaver, adoptive parent of a Chinese daughter placed by Los Ninos International, and Senior Acquisitions Editor of Education and Developmental Psychology for Harcourt Brace.

Carson’s Book: A Story about Adoption from China $15.85 New – The story was originally put together as a Christmas gift for Mr. Busby’s wife. Mr. Busby says “It was a way to gently tell the truth to our daughter about how we came together as a family.” In sharing this personal story, the authors hope to provide a starting point for discussions between other adoptive parents and their daughters from China. To this end, the often complex adoption process is simplified to help moms and dads describe “what happened” to their children. The authors believe

Cassie Wonders $7.1 Used – CASSIE WONDERSAdoption Questions Asked By A 6 1/2 Year OldCassie is a happy and cheerful six and 1/2 year old. Naturally, she has questions and even her own thoughts about her adoption and birth parents. She sometimes even wonders if this world is fair. Some questions her parents can answer but, even when they can’t her adoptive parents find ways to assure Cassie that she is special in this world. Cassie Wonders is an encouraging story for young children to express their own wonder abo

Certain factors connected with successful placement of children in adoptive foster homes $17.46 Wilfred George Scott,Paperback, English-language edition,Pub by Nabu Press

Charade $0.99 Cat Delaney a TV personality who has experienced a medical miracle–she has a new heart. One of several patients who received transplants on the same day, Cat doesn’t know her identity. She only knows that she feels compelled to make changes in her life. Leaving Hollywood San Antonio to host a TV show spotlighting adoptive children with special needs, Cat reevaluates the woman she has been. Once driven by ambition, she now opts for compassion; where she fought for fame, she now values love. She meets Alex Pierce, an ex-cop turned crime writer, who regards Cat not as a heart patient, but as a woman. Cat doesn’t suspect her new world will lead her into a maze of love, betrayal and fear. Or that the people around her are not what they seem. Most frightening are the fatal “accidents” befalling the other patients who received donor hearts–and the mysterious stalker who now haunts her every move.

Charities For Disabled People $14.13 Purchase includes free access to book updates online and a free trial membership in the publisher’s book club where you can select from more than a million books without charge. Chapters: Children Awaiting Parents, Ra’ad Rehabilitation Goodwill Complex, Barbados Association for Children With Intellectual Challenges, Shaw Trust, Rehaswiss, Compeer, Sparkle, Irish Wheelchair Association. Excerpt: Children Awaiting Parents (CAP) is a national not-for-profit charitable organization that recruits foster and adoptive families for special needs children who have been waiting the longest for a “forever” family. CAP has been in existence since 1972. CAP’s mission is to recruit foster and adoptive families across the United States for children who have been waiting the longest for a family. Our waiting children are often older, minorities, sibling groups who wish to be placed together, or children with emotional, mental and/or physical disabilities – children who are typically categorized as “special needs” or “hardest to place”. A Right to be Heard is a CAP initiative that empowers waiting children to speak in their own words about their interests, challenges and hopes. Through creative video portraits children speak about things that are important to them. The goal is to break barriers that prevent potential adoptive parents from seeing waiting children as unique individuals. These beautiful videos can be seen on our website or in DVD format. One Child at a Time, a new initiative in New York State, provides intensive child specific recruitment in collaboration with the local agency to find homes for the longest waiting children. The Heart Gallery is a national movement that showcases artistic portraits of children currently in foster care and available for adoption. CAP’s first Heart Gallery was held in December, 2005. Nearly 25% of the featured in the first exhibit have joined their forever families! CAP’s second Heart Gallery exh… More:

Children And Youth In Adoption, Orphanages, And Foster Care $62.95 Adoption and foster care is a new and burgeoning area of historical and interdisciplinary research; however, it is one where, too often, birth parents, adoptive parents, foster parents, social workers, and the children themselves have either been ignored or demonized. This authoritative and accessible work is the first comprehensive introductory resource that gives a more complete view of the many individuals and groups, as well as a more thorough understanding of the various social and economic forces that have contributed to the perceptions of what children are in need of care. Also discussed is the role of orphanages, once the primary institution for children without parents as well as a stopgap measure for poor children needing temporary care. Divided into three major sections, original essays review the practice of adoption, orphanage placement and foster care from the colonial period to the present day. Selected primary documents, including materials by children, as well as an in-depth bibliographic section, provide crucial information and insight for high school and college students. Social workers, journalists, and others will also find much value in this historical overview and guide. Contributors include Elizabeth Bartholet, Marilyn Irvin Holt, Martha Satz, and Claudia Nelson.

Children and Youth in Adoption, Orphanages, and Foster Care: A Historical Handbook and Guide $63 Adoption and foster care is a new and burgeoning area of historical and interdisciplinary research. Too often, however, birth parents, adoptive parents and foster parents, social workers, and the children themselves have been either ignored or demonized. This authoritative and accessible work is the first comprehensive introductory resource that gives a fuller portrait of the many individuals and groups that have contributed to the perceptions of what children are in need of care. Also discussed is the role of orphanages, the primary institution for children without parents as well as a stopgap measure for poor children needing temporary care. Divided into three sections, original essays review the practice of adoption, orphanage placement, and foster care from the colonial period to the present day. Selected primary documents, including materials by children, as well as an in-depth bibliography section, provide crucial information and insight for high school and college students. Social workers, journalists, and others will also find much value in this historical overview and guide. Star contributors include Elizabeth Bartholet, Marilyn Irvin Holt, Martha Satz, and Claudia Nelson.

Children in Care Revisited $24.56 New – The author follows through the lives of a number of individuals on her own caseload – from her initial contact with them as children when a social worker to some twenty years later. Through extensive interviews with them and with their former caregivers she records their impressions of being in care and of its long term after-effects, and at the same time presents a cross-section of life in residential care, foster care and adoptive families.

Children in Care Revisited $2.52 Used – The author follows through the lives of a number of individuals on her own caseload – from her initial contact with them as children when a social worker to some twenty years later. Through extensive interviews with them and with their former caregivers she records their impressions of being in care and of its long term after-effects, and at the same time presents a cross-section of life in residential care, foster care and adoptive families.

Children of the Dragonfly $19.95 Sometimes the losses of childhood can be recovered only in the flight of the dragonfly.Native American children have long been subject to removal from their homes for placement in residential schools and, more recently, in foster or adoptive homes. The governments of both the United States and Canada, having reduced Native nations to the legal status of dependent children, historically have asserted a surrogate parentalism over Native children themselves.Children of the Dragonfly is the first anthology to document this struggle for cultural survival on both sides of the U.S.-Canadian border. Through autobiography and interviews, fiction and traditional tales, official transcripts and poetry, these voices — Seneca, Cherokee, Mohawk, Navajo, and others — weave powerful accounts of struggle and loss into a moving testimony to perseverance and survival.Invoking the dragonfly spirit of Zuni legend who helps children restore a way of life that has been taken from them, the anthology explores the breadth of the conflict about Native childhood. Included are works of contemporary authors Sherman Alexie, Joy Harjo, Luci Tapahonso, and others; classic writers Zitkala-Sa and E. Pauline Johnson; and contributions from twenty important new writers as well. They take readers from the boarding school movement of the 1870s to the Sixties Scoop in Canada and the Indian Child Welfare Act of 1978 in the United States. They also spotlight the tragic consequences of racist practices such as the suppression of Indian identity in government schools and the campaign against Indian childbearing through involuntary sterilization.The custody and upbringing of children is one of the most urgent issuesthat Native Americans have ever faced. Children of the Dragonfly shows that Native children — as well as their families and descendants — are both victims and victors in the crucial struggle for cultural and personal survival. Like the dragonfly of lore, this book can lead us all to

Children of the Dragonfly: Native American Voices on Child Custody and Education $15.25 Used – Sometimes the losses of childhood can be recovered only in the flight of the dragonfly.Native American children have long been subject to removal from their homes for placement in residential schools and, more recently, in foster or adoptive homes. The governments of both the United States and Canada, having reduced Native nations to the legal status of dependent children, historically have asserted a surrogate parentalism over Native children themselves.Children of the Dragonfly is the f

Children of the Dragonfly: Native American Voices on Child Custody and Education $50 Sometimes the losses of childhood can be recovered only in the flight of the dragonfly.Native American children have long been subject to removal from their homes for placement in residential schools and, more recently, in foster or adoptive homes. The governments of both the United States and Canada, having reduced Native nations to the legal status of dependent children, historically have asserted a surrogate parentalism over Native children themselves. Children of the Dragonfly is the first anthology to document this struggle for cultural survival on both sides of the U.S.-Canadian border. Through autobiography and interviews, fiction and traditional tales, official transcripts and poetry, these voices— Seneca, Cherokee, Mohawk, Navajo, and many others— weave powerful accounts of struggle and loss into a moving testimony to perseverance and survival. Invoking the dragonfly spirit of Zuni legend who helps children restore a way of life that has been taken from them, the anthology explores the breadth of the conflict about Native childhood. Included are works of contemporary authors Sherman Alexie, Joy Harjo, Luci Tapahonso, and others; classic writers Zitkala-Sa and E. Pauline Johnson; and contributions from twenty important new writers as well. They take readers from the boarding school movement of the 1870s to the Sixties Scoop in Canada and the Indian Child Welfare Act of 1978 in the United States. They also spotlight the tragic consequences of racist practices such as the suppression of Indian identity in government schools and the campaign against Indian childbearing through involuntary sterilization. CONTENTSPart 1. Traditional Stories and LivesSevert Young Bear (Lakota) and R. D. Theisz, To Say “Child”Zitkala-Sa (Yankton Sioux), The Toad and the BoyDelia Oshogay (Chippewa), Oshkikwe’s BabyMichele Dean Stock (Seneca), The Seven DancersMary Ulmer Chiltoskey

Children of the rainbow $4.44 Used – Through an absorbing combination of fact, fiction and mythology, it tells the story of Branko, a Roma Gypsy baby born in the Auschwitz concentration camp, who receives the prophecy that he will be his people’s saviour. Named Branko, after an inmate who has been compiling the Gypsy Bible, he is smuggled out of the compound and entrusted to a Red Cross official. Some thirty years later, on the death of his adoptive father, Branko sets out to remould his identity. He witnesses the relentless

Children of the rainbow $38.95 New – Through an absorbing combination of fact, fiction and mythology, it tells the story of Branko, a Roma Gypsy baby born in the Auschwitz concentration camp, who receives the prophecy that he will be his people’s saviour. Named Branko, after an inmate who has been compiling the Gypsy Bible, he is smuggled out of the compound and entrusted to a Red Cross official. Some thirty years later, on the death of his adoptive father, Branko sets out to remould his identity. He witnesses the relentless

Children with Prenatal Alcohol And/Or Other Drug Exposure: Weighing the Risks of Adoption $0.99 Used – The decision to adopt should be made with thought and care after considerable reflection, discussion, and gathering of information. The decision to adopt a child with prenatal drug exposure involves added challenges. Designed primarily for professionals, this book offers practical suggestions, recommendations, and food for thought for preparing, counseling, and working with prospective adoptive parents who are considering adopting an infant or child who has been prenatally exposed to alco

Chosen Children: New Patterns of Adoptive Relationships $45.58 Used – This authoritative overview of contemporary adoption practices uses composite case studies of 713 adopting families to document changing trends in adoption practice.

Christmas Snow $6.99 A struggling widow and mother of two facing eviction by her heartless landlord puts her differences aside to offer a helping hand when the cruel curmudgeon goes missing in a blinding Christmas Eve blizzard in director Gus Trikonis’ heartfelt tale of forgiveness and compassion. In addition to running the candy store located on the lower level of her inner-city tenement building, kindly Mrs. Mutterance (Katherine Helmond) is also struggling to make ends meet and raise her adopted children (Kimble Joyner and Melissa Joan Hart) despite the constant interference of her mean-spirited landlord Mr. Snyder (Sid Caesar). As Christmas draws near and Mrs. Mutterance is informed by Mr. Snyder that she and her two small children are being evicted to make room for an incoming Laundromat, the devastated adoptive mother does her best to keep her children’s spirits up despite their grim outlook. When a Christmas Eve blizzard covers the city in a thick blanket of snow and no trace of Mr. Snyder can be found, the kindly Mrs. Mutterance gathers her two small children to brave the brutal elements and locate the missing landlord. Touched by the efforts of the kindly widow and her two selfless children, the once heartless landlord finds that there’s more to life than wealth and power. ~ Jason Buchanan, Rovi

Communication surrounding the decision to adopt: Rationale and attributions. $49.99 The purpose of this study was to explore the communication surrounding the decision to adopt. The findings sought to address the notion that all (or a large majority) of adoptive parents decide to adopt because of a personal loss. Specifically, the study examines the discussion between adoptive parents and nonspousal family members as they reflect on the decision surrounding an adoption within the family. This study examined communication about the rationale for adoption through the lens of attribution theory. Through guided interviews with both adoptive parents and nonspousal family members, the author identified infertility/medical issues, faith/spiritual reasons, societal good, and previous adoption plans as primary rationale identified by parents and family members with only two cases where stories did not completely match within the same family. These rationales were then classified as external (e.g., infertility/medical issues) or internal (e.g., faith/spiritual reasons, societal good, and previous adoption plans) by applying the principle of attribution theory to the participants' descriptions of the rationale. Similarly, these rationales were classified by participants as consistent, distinctive, or based on consensus. The interviews showed that approximately half of parental and nonspousal family participants classified their rationale as consistent with past behaviors, while less than half classified their rationale as distinctive. Nearly all participants (both parents and nonspousal family members) classified their rationale as coinciding with what others would say is typical of them (consensus). Next, participants were asked to define family and explain how their adopted child fit into that definition. Nearly all participants mentioned that family was not necessarily a blood relationship, and was one based on love and care for another person; virtually all participants mentioned that the statuses of adopted children were no different than any other

Communication surrounding the decision to adopt: Rationale and attributions. $49.99 The purpose of this study was to explore the communication surrounding the decision to adopt. The findings sought to address the notion that all (or a large majority) of adoptive parents decide to adopt because of a personal loss. Specifically, the study examines the discussion between adoptive parents and nonspousal family members as they reflect on the decision surrounding an adoption within the family. This study examined communication about the rationale for adoption through the lens of attribution theory. Through guided interviews with both adoptive parents and nonspousal family members, the author identified infertility/medical issues, faith/spiritual reasons, societal good, and previous adoption plans as primary rationale identified by parents and family members with only two cases where stories did not completely match within the same family. These rationales were then classified as external (e.g., infertility/medical issues) or internal (e.g., faith/spiritual reasons, societal good, and previous adoption plans) by applying the principle of attribution theory to the participants' descriptions of the rationale. Similarly, these rationales were classified by participants as consistent, distinctive, or based on consensus. The interviews showed that approximately half of parental and nonspousal family participants classified their rationale as consistent with past behaviors, while less than half classified their rationale as distinctive. Nearly all participants (both parents and nonspousal family members) classified their rationale as coinciding with what others would say is typical of them (consensus). Next, participants were asked to define family and explain how their adopted child fit into that definition. Nearly all participants mentioned that family was not necessarily a blood relationship, and was one based on love and care for another person; virtually all participants mentioned that the statuses of adopted children were no different than any other

Creating Ceremonies: Innovative Ways to Meet Adoption Challenges $1.99 The book contains no figures.This is an ideal book for therapists to pass along to clients who are dealing with issues of adoption.This book provides a truly unique resource for helping adoptive families to cope with the day-to-day challenges of living together. Some of the ceremonies included are: Name Giving … Welcome Home … There Is a Place for Both of Us … "Saying Goodbye to Our Old Home" … There Is Plenty of Room in a Heart. From preadoption to moving in, from adjustment to reinforcement and beyond, these ceremonies are designed to help all members of adoptive families better weather transitions. "This book is a gem . . . well-written and badly needed. . . . A highly useful book that is very sensitive to families’ needs and children’s issues." Sharon Kaplan-Roszia

Cuando L@s Nin@s No Vienen de Paris: Orientacion y Recursos Para la Postadopcion $16.49 Used – Illuminating and important, this guide for future adoptive parents and adoption professionals answers questions on a number of topics regarding the adoption process and an adopted child’s assimilation into a new home, including “What influence do pre- and postnatal factors have, such as malnutrition or alcoholism? Does depression exist after adoption? Are we a family with an ethnic member or a multiethnic family? “and” What do our children think about adoption?” This practical reference a

Cuando L@s Nin@s No Vienen de Paris: Orientacion y Recursos Para la Postadopcion $17.68 New – Illuminating and important, this guide for future adoptive parents and adoption professionals answers questions on a number of topics regarding the adoption process and an adopted child’s assimilation into a new home, including “What influence do pre- and postnatal factors have, such as malnutrition or alcoholism? Does depression exist after adoption? Are we a family with an ethnic member or a multiethnic family? “and” What do our children think about adoption?” This practical reference al

Cuando Los Ninos No Vienen de Paris: Orientacion y Recursos Para La Postadopcion $1.5 Used – This text is in Spanish. Illuminating and important, this guide for future adoptive parents and adoption professionals answers questions on a number of topics regarding the adoption process and an adopted child’s assimilation into a new home, including What influence do pre- and postnatal factors have, such as malnutrition or alcoholism? Does depression exist after adoption? Are we a family with an ethnic member or a multiethnic family? And what do our children think about adoption? This

Culture Keeping: White Mothers, International Adoption, and the Negotiation of Family Difference $49.95 Since the early 1990s, close to 250,000 children born abroad have been adopted into the United States. Nearly half of these children have come from China or Russia. Culture Keeping: White Mothers, International Adoption, and the Negotiation of Family Difference offers the first comparative analysis of these two popular adoption programs.Heather Jacobson examines these adoptions by focusing on a relatively new social phenomenon, the practice by international adoptive parents, mothers in particular, of incorporating aspects of their children’s cultures of origin into their families’ lives. “Culture keeping” is now standard in the adoption world, though few adoptive parents, the majority of whom are white and native-born, have experience with the ethnic practices of their children’s homelands prior to adopting.Jacobson follows white adoptive mothers as they navigate culture keeping: from their motivations, to the pressures and constraints they face, to the content of their actual practices concerning names, food, toys, travel, cultural events, and communities of belonging. Through her interviews, she explores how women think about their children, their families, and themselves as mothers as they labor to construct or resist ethnic identities for their children, who may be perceived as birth children (because they are white) or who may be perceived as adopted (because of racial difference).The choices these women make about culture, Jacobson argues, offer a window into dominant ideas of race and the “American Family,” and into how social differences are conceived and negotiated in the United States.